All first-year students, and most returning students, live with a roommate. This experience helps to strengthen interpersonal skills through communication and negotiation of use of a shared space.
Characteristics of Healthy Roommate Relationships
- Flexibility: Make sure that you are reasonable in all situations.
- Compromise: Don’t expect things to go your way, or no way at all.
- Assertiveness: While you may need to cool off after being upset, it is best to address situations sooner than later.
- Respect: Keep personal boundaries, beliefs and values in mind.
- Optimism: In most cases, there is a reasonable solution. Persistence is key!
Characteristics of Unhealthy Roommate Relationships
- Assumptions/Pre-judgments: Always ask questions before you make up your mind about something.
- Gossip: Go directly to the source! Slandering your roommate will not help the situation.
- Passiveness: You can’t expect a roommate issue to resolve itself without speaking about it.
- Minimizing: Just as you may expect your roommate(s) to take you seriously, you should do the same for them.
- Negative Language: Threatening and escalating the situation blows everything out of proportion!
During the opening days of the semester, our staff introduces our Roommate Agreement to residents. This agreement is designed to facilitate dialogue between roommates around the following areas:
- Study Habits
- Sleeping Habits
- Guests and Visitation
- Our Living Space & Personal Property
All first-year students are required to complete this agreement and returning students are strongly encouraged to do the same. This document is available to be completed online and can be revisited throughout the year to help roommates learn how to communicate with one another while navigating conflict.
Once submitted, each roommate will receive an email with a copy of their completed agreement for their records.