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Love and life in a time of war

About the book, Don’t Cry, Chiisai, Don’t Cry

At Earlham College in 1942, Ruthanna Farlow and her friends felt they had something of a nirvana, a place that others only dreamed of. It was a time of war, but Earlham was a place of Quakerly kindness. Love was for all, not a select few. This sort of spirit came as no shock to Ruthanna. She was from the southern Indiana town of Paoli. Its population was about 3,000 if you counted the dogs and cats. The town had been settled by Quakers and dominated by the Penn love ethic. No one had ever specifically said to her, “All people are the same.” She just assumed it to be true because if you loved your neighbor, how could it be otherwise? That same spirit of tolerance would bring a young Japanese American man into her life. Despite it being only months since the bombing of Pearl Harbor, Earlham College had opened its doors to Japanese American students from the West Coast, students who would have otherwise been interned. Friendships with these students would be encouraged. Interracial dating, however, was another matter. Marriage? Illegal in Indiana and most other states.

About the author

Ruth Farlow Uyesugi (1923-2018) was a journalist and writer in addition to being a beloved Paoli Indiana High School teacher for 55 years. In 1977 she published Don’t Cry, Chiisai, Don’t Cry, a firsthand account of her courtship at Earlham College by Edward Uyesugi during World War II and her subsequent marriage into his Japanese American family despite experiences with discrimination.

About the project

In 1999, the U.S. Congress authorized compensation for those Americans of Japanese descent who lost their businesses and property during their forced relocation and internment during WWII. Per Edward Uyesugis’s last wishes, his family donated the reparations to the Earlham College Lilly Library to create the Dr. E.T. Uyesugi Collection. The purpose of the collection was to document Dr. Uyesugi’s experiences during and after WWII. The gift was in recognition for the openness and hospitality shown by Earlham College and the American Friends Society. After Ruth Uyesugi’s death in 2018, the family chose to reprint their mother’s book and add it to the collection as a way "to document our parents’ unique story and sustain their legacy."

How to buy the book

Don't Cry, Chiisai, Don't Cry is available on Amazon as a paperback and in Kindle format.

See also

Edward and his brother Newton were among 24 students of Japanese descent at Earlham between 1942-45. Learn more about Japanese American students at Earlham during WWII at Lilly Library's online exhibit, Earlham College and Japanese Americans 1942-1945.

Earlham College, an independent, residential college, aspires to provide the highest-quality undergraduate education in the liberal arts and sciences, shaped by the distinctive perspectives of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers).

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